Love OR Infatuation?
Love vs. Infatuation: Is It True Love or Just a Crush?
Ah, Valentine’s Day—the season of heart-shaped chocolates, cringeworthy rom-com marathons, and questionable relationship decisions. Whether you're writing your crush's name in your notebook (old school, but respect) or obsessively refreshing their Instagram stories, let’s get real –- are you in love, or are you just infatuated?
Because, let’s face it, there’s a BIG difference.
Infatuation: The Human Equivalent of a Sugar Rush
Infatuation is that intoxicating, head-spinning, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you feeling that hits you like a double shot of espresso. It’s fast, intense, and, much like binge-watching a new Netflix show, it consumes all your free time. But spoiler alert: It doesn’t always last.
Signs you’re infatuated:
You idealize them to an almost superhero level (as if they’ve never had morning breath or sent a cringey text).
You obsess over their every move—Did they like your post? Did they see your story? Did they breathe today?!
You crave their attention like it’s the last slice of pizza at a party.
You don’t really know them deeply, but that doesn’t stop you from planning your future together.
Infatuation is exciting, dramatic, and a little chaotic. It’s like falling for someone because they looked cute at a concert.
Love: The Wi-Fi Connection That Actually Stays Strong
Love, on the other hand, isn’t just fireworks — it’s the slow burn, the steady connection that doesn’t glitch when things get tough. Love doesn’t just hype you up in the honeymoon phase; it sticks around when you’re sick, stressed, or having a bad hair day.
Signs you’re in love:
You appreciate them for who they are—flaws, quirks, and all (even their terrible taste in reality TV).
You feel safe and comfortable being your weird, unfiltered self.
You actually care about their well-being, not just how they make you feel.
Your relationship isn’t just built on excitement, but on trust, respect, and shared values.
Love is deeper, more real. It’s the best friend and the spark, the person you actually enjoy doing nothing with.
So, Which One Are You Feeling?
Here’s the thing –- if you want something that lasts beyond a season of the latest trending dating show, real love is where it’s at.
So this Valentine’s Day, ask yourself –- Are you in love, or are you just caught up in the excitement? Give yourself permission to set boundaries; say no to things that negatively affect your physical, emotional, or spiritual health; and say yes to waiting for a healthy relationship that will last.
If you could use some help establishing boundaries and building a solid relationship, give us a call at 406-422-1011. We’d love to help you navigate!